Keeping Sane

I'm not really sure why weddings cause so much trouble for couples. You'd think that planning the event that unites you together would be something that would spark up romance every time it came up.

But it doesn't work that way.

Most ladies want everything to go smoothly and be beautiful. Most men wouldn't care if they got married at a truck stop. And this my friends, causes tension.

Mr. Man and I have been blessed in that we have made it a habit to keep any disagreements about the actual disagreement. When we aren't on the same page, we start looking back a the book together instead of attacking each other. I'm praying that this habit lasts forever. Or at least that if it goes away we have enough of Him in us to forgive.

When we just can't agree, I know I tend to ask two questions 1) how important is this in the grand scheme of things? and 2) what is the real purpose or goal that we are trying to accomplish?

That tends to keep things in perspective.

One tip I'd give to brides-to-be is to limit your wedding planning to some sort of space as much as possible (e.g. the living room, via telephone, etc). Mr. Man and I get our best work done when we split up the tasks via email or text and then just update each other when they are done.

Then, when we are together, we can take on the world, instead of each other.

I'm super thankful to have a loving, patient and kind soon-to-be husband. I hope he knows how much I love him.

What other tips keep you and your boo from taking out stress on each other?


Jc said...

My husband was perfectly aware that he was an accessory for the wedding. He just had to say yes all the time.

Luckily we think alike in terms of money, family etc so we had a great time

Cheap Wife said...

I am right there with you. This is no pinic! Didn't you dream of getting married and thought planning would be loads of fun? Yeah...it's totally not! haha
When we got engaged we met a newlywed couple. They gave up great advise. The groom said to make one day "wedding free". One day where you can come home and be together and he doesn't have hear about the wedding.haha I tried that...I really did. But now that we are a little more than a month away.....a "wedding free day" sounds like a joke. We don't have time for that! haha
I am over here trying to keep sane.. haha