Everyone keeps asking us if we are nervous. Part of me feels like I should be. But to be honest, I'm more nervous about the wedding than the marriage. That may sound naive, but it's real.
About getting married?
There could be a hurricane.
500 people could show up out of nowhere.
The food could give everyone ebola.
These are all things that cross my mind occaisionally.
But about being married?
I know there are some things about being married that will be both unexpected and challenging. We will live together. We do "what married people do" that we don't do now, lol. I'm nervous about these things. But the commitment part? I'm not nervous about that. Being engaged (especially for a year) is like being married in your head. Really, I feel like we've been married since May 25th, 2008, but we're just waiting for all our friends and family to get the memo.
(To be honest, I think if your commitment starts when you say your vows, then trouble is ahead. Well really, trouble is ahead no matter what you do, because that's life. )
We know this is going to be hard. Really hard. But for the most part, we've always had a "we'll figure it out" attitude. And we try our darnedest to treat each other with love and respect until we figure"it" out.
So there's the answer to your question. Probably doesn't sound very romantic, huh?
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